What is your definition of a "Good Mother?" Is it someone who makes up for affection by purchasing every toy in the store for your child? Or is it a simple gesture like giving your child a hug every once in a while and saying I Love You?
Children don't require much to feel loved. They only want someone who will pay attention. If you are the type of mother that's always so desperate to meet a man, and when you finally do, your child comes second in the equation, you have serious issues. The child didn't ask to come into this world. You bought them into it. Your responsibility is to keep that child safe and that does include their emotions.
You can't ignore your child when your man is around and expect them to obey you when your man is gone. It doesn't work that way. Did you respect your child when you were in your bedroom with your man, and he/she was crying because they were hungry? I don't think so. So don't expect your child to respect you when they are old enough to date and bring their boyfriends or girlfriends home into their bedrooms. What are you going to do or say? It's too late to try to raise them at this point.
Do you feel that your child owe you something in life because you carried them for nine months and went through hell with them? You really shouldn't feel that way. It's called being a parent. You are absolutely concerned with the wrong things and your thinking is backwards and distorted. Your child owes you nothing...They didn't ask to come here.
Respect yourself and your children and the rest will follow. After all, your children will be your children for the rest of your lives. That man may only be temporary.
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